Stroud’s independent funeral director

Working with you for a more personal funeral

If you want a personal funeral that reflects the unique life of the person who has died, call – and come in and talk to us.

Down to earth, simple, traditional, or an all-day event – it is the life of the person who has died that guides us, and for this we’ll be led by you and your family.

As you tell us about what you want, about the life and times of the person who has died, the funeral plans will emerge. No matter how simple, it will be a unique and characterful event that they themselves would have been pleased to attend.

You no longer need to follow the ‘default’ model of funeral that we’ve all attended and sometimes felt isolated from. Nor should you have to choose a range of services in a prescribed package format.

From our wide experience, we can help by knowing the procedures, the choices, the many sensible, practical ways in which the funeral can reflect the life and character of the person who has died; this way the funeral can create new – even wonderful – memories, and leave you, your family, and all who were there feeling fulfilled – even uplifted.

So how exactly are we different?

Continuity of care: We are a small team and the same individual will be involved in looking after the person who has died from the time you first contact us until after the funeral. This is not the case with all funeral companies. In some, roles are split between the staff who collect the person, those that look after the person’s body, those that arrange the funeral and the funeral director on the day of the funeral.

Language: We are careful about the language we use. We talk about ‘the person who has died’ – not ‘the deceased’. We say ‘died’ and not ‘passed’ (unless we sense you are not comfortable with this.) We say ‘visit’ or ‘spend time with the person who has died’ not ‘viewing the deceased’. And we talk about ‘collecting the person from home or place of death’, not ‘doing a removal’.

Involvement: You can have as much – or as little – involvement as you would like at every stage of the process. You can wash and dress the person who has died, be the one to place the lid on their coffin, create a nameplate for it, be involved in carrying the coffin. Plus many other ways which evolve as we plan the funeral.

Appearance: We don’t attend funerals in ‘traditional’ Victorian-style clothing. We dresss smartly and appropriately. Our premises are modern and comfortable, not like business premises. We are able to offer a dark blue Mercedes estate car as the funeral car on the day as we find many families don’t want a traditional black hearse. But if you do want a black or burgundy hearse, these are available.

Contacting us: We encourage families to make contact with us before the person has died; this way we will already have a relationship in place and you won’t be phoning a stranger.

Outreach: We are actively involved in our community in various ways, normalising the role of death and dying in our culture.

Independent: We are independent! We are not part of a large corporate group of funeral directors.

You can contact us at any time for funeral assistance

 

Contact us any time for funeral assistance. We can be contacted on 01453 767 769, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Family Tree is central Stroud's only independent funeral director. We offer all types of funeral, and every one is personal and memorable.

Our aim? To work with you to plan something special, and then make it all happen smoothly.

A hands-on farewell

“It does not seem almost a month ago that we all gathered to say goodbye to J. Family and friends still agree that it was a strangely beautiful day, and beneficial to all of us in our various states of …

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S.D

Frampton on Severn

A hands-on farewell

“It does not seem almost a month ago that we all gathered to say goodbye to J. Family and friends still agree that it was a strangely beautiful day, and beneficial to all of us in our various states of shock and grief. K (J’s friend) thanked us for ‘the proudest moment of his life’ – and it was clearly important to many others that J. had a ‘hands-on’ farewell. Thank you for that.”

S.D

Frampton on Severn

A beautiful funeral

“It was a beautiful funeral; I know that if you had not been so flexible and had so many good ideas it would not have been like this. We’ve had lots of feedback from Mum’s friends about what a g…

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Q

Stroud

A beautiful funeral

“It was a beautiful funeral; I know that if you had not been so flexible and had so many good ideas it would not have been like this. We’ve had lots of feedback from Mum’s friends about what a good funeral it was.”

Q

Stroud

Incredible…splendid

“Incredible, yesterday. Most splendid funeral I have ever attended, and unfortunately I have attended many. Thank you again. I know you made my granddaughter happy. She is a different girl today, mu…

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R

Stroud

Incredible…splendid

“Incredible, yesterday. Most splendid funeral I have ever attended, and unfortunately I have attended many. Thank you again. I know you made my granddaughter happy. She is a different girl today, much more positive, and going back to college next week. Your “send-off” for her mother did something wonderful for her.”

R

Stroud

Profound and beautiful

“Thank you. Thank you for making what could have been a nightmare very beautiful. You inspired us to be creative and to truly celebrate our daddy openly, and we are all very grateful to you for that…

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H.B

Bath

Profound and beautiful

“Thank you. Thank you for making what could have been a nightmare very beautiful. You inspired us to be creative and to truly celebrate our daddy openly, and we are all very grateful to you for that. It is profound and beautiful to turn sad introspection into theatrical celebration – and that was in fact the essence of our father. He would have loved it! Thank you for your patience and kindness.”

H.B

Bath

A beautiful and fitting service

“Our family cannot thank you enough for ensuring that we created a beautiful and fitting service yesterday. The flowers, which have travelled beautifully, were the most extraordinary collection ever…

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J.T

Stroud

A beautiful and fitting service

“Our family cannot thank you enough for ensuring that we created a beautiful and fitting service yesterday. The flowers, which have travelled beautifully, were the most extraordinary collection ever, the coffin too, and the format was perfect. Like you, I have a very grim memory of my father’s funeral and know how badly these things can go, so we are all very grateful and ever in your debt. It is encouraging and wonderful to know that there is such care in the community.”

J.T

Stroud

A wonderful send-off

“I just wanted to say a huge thank you to you for giving our mum the most wonderful send-off. The way you spoke about her was as if you had known her yourself for years. You gave the eulogy with suc…

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L.B & S.W

Cashes Green, Stroud

A wonderful send-off

“I just wanted to say a huge thank you to you for giving our mum the most wonderful send-off. The way you spoke about her was as if you had known her yourself for years. You gave the eulogy with such tenderness and respect for her. It was a beautiful service; we would not have changed anything about it. The whole experience offered by you and Jane from start to finish was just perfect. What a way to be remembered. Everyone needs a Family Tree funeral; thank goodness my sister found you.”

L.B & S.W

Cashes Green, Stroud

Compassion, love and empathy

“I wanted to just let you know from the bottom of my heart how much I appreciate all the help, guidance and practical support you have given me over the past weeks since my dad died. Everything you do i…

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M.G

Horsley

Compassion, love and empathy

“I wanted to just let you know from the bottom of my heart how much I appreciate all the help, guidance and practical support you have given me over the past weeks since my dad died. Everything you do is with true compassion, love and empathy and it truly shows. Without you it would be so much harder to bear.”

M.G

Horsley

Heartfelt understanding

Thank you again for all your heartfelt understanding and guidance during the funeral arrangements for Dad. You helped to make a very difficult time a little more bearable. I am grateful and appreciative f…

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L.L-B

Nailsworth

Heartfelt understanding

Thank you again for all your heartfelt understanding and guidance during the funeral arrangements for Dad. You helped to make a very difficult time a little more bearable. I am grateful and appreciative for this.

L.L-B

Nailsworth

Understated and dignified

Unbelievably, I felt elated and so happy that with Family Tree’s guidance and creativity we had choreographed a perfect bespoke last day for Barbara and myself, and for the family there was the knowledge that B had not been alone bu…

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R.V-S

Malmesbury

Understated and dignified

Unbelievably, I felt elated and so happy that with Family Tree’s guidance and creativity we had choreographed a perfect bespoke last day for Barbara and myself, and for the family there was the knowledge that B had not been alone but had remained a free spirit to the end!
I can’t thank you both enough for what you have done and how you achieved it in such an understated and dignified manner. Now at home, I am able to reflect upon the day and marvel at what a beautiful and intimate experience it was.

 

R.V-S

Malmesbury

I wholeheartedly recommend them

“Family Tree dealt with my mother’s funeral from the first moment of contact to the last with great sensitivity and professionalism. All arrangements, including the service in Surrey, were org…

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D.E

Randwick

I wholeheartedly recommend them

“Family Tree dealt with my mother’s funeral from the first moment of contact to the last with great sensitivity and professionalism. All arrangements, including the service in Surrey, were organised with a personal touch on my behalf and to my bespoke requirements. I can wholeheartedly recommend them.”

D.E

Randwick

Your kindness, thoughtfulness and compassion

“On behalf of my mother and my wife, I sincerely thank you for all your kindness, thoughtfulness and compassion shown to us all before, during and after Dad’s funeral. It was a deeply emotional ti…

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L.T

Cashes Green, Stroud

Your kindness, thoughtfulness and compassion

“On behalf of my mother and my wife, I sincerely thank you for all your kindness, thoughtfulness and compassion shown to us all before, during and after Dad’s funeral. It was a deeply emotional time for us and your personal assistance helped us enormously. The planning for Dad’s funeral was so trouble-free, all thanks to you. We all had no doubts that everything would run smoothly on the day with you at the helm, and as we thought, it did. The layout and contents of Dad’s service sheet just added the final touch to making Dad’s funeral so memorable for us. Thanks again for all your support.”

L.T

Cashes Green, Stroud

An experience of great calm and peace

“I am so glad to have had your kindly and helpful support over the past couple of years whilst I have been preparing for Mum’s death. My sister and I found your gentle, low-key, but professional p…

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Dr B.W

Malvern

An experience of great calm and peace

“I am so glad to have had your kindly and helpful support over the past couple of years whilst I have been preparing for Mum’s death. My sister and I found your gentle, low-key, but professional presence during the closing of the coffin – and throughout the funeral – very reassuring, and we both thank you most sincerely for making the experience one of great calm and peace.”

Dr B.W

Malvern

Dignified and intimate

“We were all extremely happy with your arrangements for Mum’s funeral. She left clear instructions for some of the main details and I believe we complied with them in a dignified and intimate way….

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D.O

Kings Stanley

Dignified and intimate

“We were all extremely happy with your arrangements for Mum’s funeral. She left clear instructions for some of the main details and I believe we complied with them in a dignified and intimate way. I have not attended many funeral ceremonies in my life but I believe we all felt that we could not have done more to make it a more meaningful occasion and one in which we all could make a personal contribution. I think it can be too easy to be a superficial participant. I thank you again for your discrete participation.”

D.O

Kings Stanley

All were honoured

“Once again a big thank you from me and from all in the family, especially the old man! It really worked for him! This morning he said, “I wonder what the stuffy people thought of it!” with a mischi…

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L

All were honoured

“Once again a big thank you from me and from all in the family, especially the old man! It really worked for him! This morning he said, “I wonder what the stuffy people thought of it!” with a mischievous chuckle, giving it his approval. We managed to bring the opposites together and all were honoured.”

L

We would never ever have done it like this without you

“We would never ever have done it like this without you.”

S.R

We would never ever have done it like this without you

“We would never ever have done it like this without you.”

S.R

Gentle and supportive

“It was a deeply emotional time, a time of healing through which you guided us in the most gentle and supportive way. We are most grateful.”

I.C

Gentle and supportive

“It was a deeply emotional time, a time of healing through which you guided us in the most gentle and supportive way. We are most grateful.”

I.C

Compassion and sympathy

“My family and I would like to thank you and your company for the way that you handled the interment of my wife’s ashes on Monday last. It wasn’t a day that I had been looking forward to, but after …

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Compassion and sympathy

“My family and I would like to thank you and your company for the way that you handled the interment of my wife’s ashes on Monday last. It wasn’t a day that I had been looking forward to, but after I felt at ease that it had finally been done. K and I both agreed that your resume of E’s life and character was done with compassion and sympathy, although you hadn’t met her; also the reading of the poem was perfect, and seemed to reflect the spirit of the day. Our thanks again, and we hope to see you on perhaps a happier occasion.”

A great funeral

“A rather belated note to say thank you for your help in arranging Mum’s funeral. You listened to all our requests, and responded sensitively and accurately; you helped us make decisions when we dithe…

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C.G

Kings Stanley

A great funeral

“A rather belated note to say thank you for your help in arranging Mum’s funeral. You listened to all our requests, and responded sensitively and accurately; you helped us make decisions when we dithered, and were very patient. On the day, your organisation was well planned and unobtrusive. Your choice of other members for your team was great. It was a great funeral. Thank you.”

C.G

Kings Stanley

A magnificent occasion

“From the first few words we exchanged on the telephone, it was clear that Family Tree were the people to take care of everything. They dropped round a few minutes later, very quickly understood what I had in mind, and artfully made th…

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W.R

Stroud

A magnificent occasion

“From the first few words we exchanged on the telephone, it was clear that Family Tree were the people to take care of everything. They dropped round a few minutes later, very quickly understood what I had in mind, and artfully made the necessary arrangements. Without their reassuring presence, sensitivity and professionalism, the celebration would not have been the magnificent occasion that it was.”

From his published tribute to B’s life “Then Shall You Truly Dance”

W.R

Stroud

A remarkably special day

“Thank you again for looking after us so beautifully as we arranged Dad’s funeral. We could not have been in better hands. We were able to put all our trust in you and you made it a remarkably special…

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J.C

Avening

A remarkably special day

“Thank you again for looking after us so beautifully as we arranged Dad’s funeral. We could not have been in better hands. We were able to put all our trust in you and you made it a remarkably special day.”

J.C

Avening

Quiet guidance

“Instead of it being a very sad and stilted occasion, it seemed to me a very natural progression from a very happy life to a well-earned rest. Your kind way of steering us all in the right direction, an…

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V.C

Nailsworth

Quiet guidance

“Instead of it being a very sad and stilted occasion, it seemed to me a very natural progression from a very happy life to a well-earned rest. Your kind way of steering us all in the right direction, and ensuring that things ran smoothly without a lot of fuss was very much appreciated. It was very pleasing for us all to be able to play our part under your quiet guidance.”

V.C

Nailsworth

Care, support and concern

“Thank you once again for all your care, support and concern during the past couple of weeks.”

V.W

Chalford

Care, support and concern

“Thank you once again for all your care, support and concern during the past couple of weeks.”

V.W

Chalford

A personal tribute for our daughter

Many thanks to Jane and Catherine. You made such a difficult time more bearable and we are very grateful for your understanding and help with all the little touches you were able to do for us to make it such a personal tribute f…

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JS & BS

A personal tribute for our daughter

Many thanks to Jane and Catherine. You made such a difficult time more bearable and we are very grateful for your understanding and help with all the little touches you were able to do for us to make it such a personal tribute for our daughter. I cannot praise you enough.

JS & BS

Thoughts and news from Family Tree Funerals

Guest blog – Reflections on a not-so-direct direct cremation

Guest blog – Reflections on a not-so-direct direct cremation

Introducing our first ‘guest blog’, this piece has been written by Roger Vincent-Silk whose wife Barbara died almost a year ago in February 2021. Barbara’s funeral was not conventional in that Roger opted for an ‘attended direct cremation’ and a shroud, not a coffin....

Covid update January 2021

Covid update January 2021

Happy New Year to all our followers. Following the lockdown announcement last night, this is how funerals are looking in England now. As before, a maximum of 30 friends and family can attend a service but only six people are permitted to attend a wake. Crematoriums...

Coronavirus – September 2020 Update

Coronavirus – September 2020 Update

As we head into September, the funeral world is looking more like its old self but still with some significant differences. Face to Face: We are now holding socially-distanced arrangement meetings in our office. The option remains to use Zoom or the phone if family...

We will work with you to design and arrange exactly the type of funeral that you and your family feel is right for the person who has died.

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